“We are constantly trying to hold it all together. If you really want to see why you do things, then don’t do them and see what happens.” ― Michael A. Singer
This quote struck me when I read it. I must have re-read it three or four times before I moved on only to scroll back on my phone to jot it down.
This sentiment has been expressed to me often in my life. “What would happen if you let that project fail? What would happen if you let that person fail? What would happen if you stop making the effort in that relationship?” This quote hits every area of my life – one of those annoying common themes that crisscrosses work and my personal life easily.
The quote is right – seeing what happens is very telling about myself and about others. Right now, I’m mainly working on this with relationships in my life as I often don’t notice one sided situations until it’s too late. The results thus far are as you would imagine – it’s disappointing but not unexpected. It is how things should be and not as I work for them to artificially be. Being off of most social media compounds this as if I don’t reach out, I simply have no clue what those folks in my life are doing. Doing this reminds me just how okay I am being the one who cares more than others and how unsustainable that can be.
Every now and then, I am pleasantly surprised by the ones who reach back out and who take their turn standing guard over our friendship. It reminds me to look for those folks rather than settling for those who have faded away. It reminds me that it is natural for this to happen – I need to learn to better let go.
In any case, this quote was a good reminder for me – I hope it is for you too.