For a fuller view of my writing beyond my recent posts, dive in below and peruse as much or as little as you’d like. I write about a wide range of topics from WordPress to Surrogacy to Photography to Mental Health. Don’t follow me if you want to only hear about a certain topic as I write based on what comes up for me in that moment of time. As always, thanks for reading.
-
Hold the mirror up
Truth is everywhere. It’s in religions, books, sports, work, play, relationships, strangers, etc. I’m realizing more and more how important it is to have people who can shine light on your own personal truth. The people who will hold you accountable and hold the mirror up to you so you can face yourself knowing you aren’t alone. […]
-
Leadership Styles
If I had to sum up any sort of “leadership style” I accidentally strive to follow, it would be these two: service leadership & leading from the front. I don’t read a lot of books on leadership surprisingly. I don’t “study it” like I probably should. I just started reading The Score Takes Care of Itself: My […]
-
Candy Coating Conformity
“One of the greatest glories of growing older is the willingness to ask why and, getting no good answer, deciding to follow my own inclinations and desires. Asking why is the way to wisdom. Why are we supposed to want possessions we don’t need and work that seems beside the point and tight shoes and […]
-
a way to use the pain
“Most people carry that pain around inside them their whole lives, until they kill the pain by other means, or until it kills them. But you, my friends, you found another way: a way to use the pain. To burn it as fuel, for light and warmth. You have learned to break the world that […]
-
Teamwork makes the dream work
Every year, Automatticians (the name we fondly use to describe those like me who work for Automattic) gather for a week to meet in person to learn, create, teach, question, celebrate, and grow with each other. We call this the “Grand Meetup”. This year’s location was in Whistler, Canada which proved to be a gorgeous […]
-
Dreams of extroversion
I was texting a friend of mine the other day – a true, introverted friend. I said simply… I would love for a day to experience what it’s like to be an extrovert and to get energy from other people rather than feeling like I just got run over and my brain is melting. I […]
-
A Postcard a Day
“Love has nothing to do with what you are expecting to get — only what you are expecting to give — which is everything. What you will receive in return varies. But it really has no connection with what you give. You give because you love and cannot help giving.”― Katharine Hepburn I’m trying a […]
-
Automattic: Two Year Anniversary
It’s my two year anniversary with Automattic and I’m in disbelief. How has it been two years? My life has radically transformed in many ways since starting work at Automattic. I went from feeling like an out of place psychology major thrown into the tech world unaware of what I got myself into to a […]
-
Interference
I went to this house concert through SoFar Sounds last weekend. It was quite the hipster experience with a BYOB policy, acoustic jams, perfectly imperfect outfits, and cute little dogs running around everywhere. Joking aside, it really was a fantastic time and I even made friends there plus won 2 tickets for the next round. During the intro, […]
-
On knowing and being known
“Somewhere, something incredible is waiting to be known.” ― Carl Sagan This past Sunday, I was headed back from Balboa park deep in thought after a beautiful (and free) organ concert when I realized I wasn’t using a GPS to tell me where and when to turn. This seems like a silly realization but when you’ve […]
-
Therapy
“Courage doesn’t happen when you have all the answers. It happens when you are ready to face the questions you have been avoiding your whole life.” ― Shannon L. Alder People don’t often realize that the quotes I share on Facebook are quotes I first needed to read for my own sanity. I often struggle […]
-
Identity breaking points
I’m reading a book with some coworkers called Moving Diversity Forward: How to Go From Well-Meaning to Well-Doing (buy it here). Part of it is examining diversity in your life and diverse parts of your identity. Here are the questions we’re discussing: 1) What is your race, your ethnicity, your socioeconomic class (now and growing up), your religion, […]
-
4am friends
“It’s the friends you can call up at 4 a.m. that matter.” ― Marlene Dietrich Meet one of my 4am friends, Steven. Over the last 9 months, we’ve explored Washington DC, Austin, and Denver together. I didn’t realize it until recently that this was the first time we had traveled anywhere together. Growing up we spent […]
-
Little distractions
I’ve been go go go-ing for the last couple of months with work and haven’t had much time to truly pause. This morning I walked slowly to a coffee shop to read only to find myself barely able to concentrate on doing so for longer than few minutes at a time. I realized that my […]
-
It’s too late for that
I grew up playing with airsoft guns. I remember with pride the first time I bought my very own at 9 years old. I brought it home and shot it for hours collecting each and every clay pellet as I went. I didn’t want to lose a single one – each one was precious and […]
-
Grief
“Loss and pain in the world is unimaginable but I want them to try.” – Max Porter from Grief is The Thing With Feathers I want to make an example of my Grief. I made the decision to live through it so now I must learn from it. I’ve entered into a contract with life’s lessons and […]
-
Honest Tears
“I would rather wear honest tears than the most beautiful and elaborately faked smile.” ― Tyler Knott Gregson For better or for worse.
-
Orlando
I grew up in Orlando – Winter Park to be exact. I didn’t “come out” until I was hundreds of miles away in college at UNC my freshmen year. It’s not that I felt that Orlando was a particularly unsafe place to be LGBTQ. Quite the opposite really seeing as the neighbors across the street who […]
-
Through the cracks
I was crossing the street today when I stepped in a very small and shallow puddle. The second I did I could feel water seeping into my right shoe. I didn’t think much of it until I realized that – you know – the bottom of my shoe should have prevented that from happening. Curious I […]
-
I am not going to waste it.
I didn’t want to get out of bed this morning. I felt completely glued to my bed as if I was a child again and the floor would turn to lava if I stepped out of the covers. I woke up and immediately snoozed my alarm multiple times not even giving my conscious brain a […]
-
Show your colors, girl.
I wake up thinking ’bout my purpose And wonder if I’m really worth it It’s all been sung before and you’ve all heard it (Here we go, go, go) Your life is your design, so go ahead design it. Your star is in the sky, so go ahead align it. Cause you’re forever lost, […]
-
and if today i am not enough
holes have been left and holes have been filled. i have grown close to people i only once hoped to be close with. i am learning about myself. i am learning about life. i am thankful. bottom line. i am thankful that i am alive. i am thankful that i am at a wonderful university. […]
-
uncategorized
“There are lots of things we never understand, no matter how many years we put on, no matter how much experience we accumulate.” -Haruki Murakami I used to be of the belief that all aspects of life will inevitably start to make more sense as time wears on. I now believe it’s likely that rather than […]
-
“You don’t know…
“You don’t know anyone at the party, so you don’t want to go. You don’t like cottage cheese, so you haven’t eaten it in years. This is your choice, of course, but don’t kid yourself: it’s also the flinch. Your personality is not set in stone. You may think a morning coffee is the most […]
-
Who I Am Becoming
“I have hope in who I am becoming. I have belief in every scar and disgraceful word I have ever spoken or been told because it is still teaching me and I have hope in who I am becoming. They say it takes 756 days to run to someone you love and they also say […]
-
Information Glut
On a recommendation by Scott Berkun, I’m reading Technopoly by Neil Postman. Published in 1992, truths about today’s world seep throughout this book. I’m only 70 pages in but I’m hooked and loving the way my mind is being stretched. What follows are quotes + reflections + lots of rambling: “He means to say that those who […]
-
The “Free Year”
My sophomore year of college, I was faced with transferring from UNC to UF simply due to the financial burden of going to school out of state. I was heartbroken – I had fallen in love with UNC and the people whose paths mine had crossed with. I spent months agonizing over this move even spending spring […]
-
Conceptualizing Time
Working remotely has made time an odd concept especially as I traverse time zones constantly. I’ve come to just view my calendar as my guide and to roll with my surroundings otherwise. When you change timezones for the first time you realize how fickle time is. You realize how arbitrary this concept is that we hold […]
-
Museums of the Future
After going to countless museums in the last month, I’m curious to see how future people document us with our digital lives encompassing massive amounts of data and spread out over so many different platforms. As I’ve reflected upon before, thanks to technology we have a reach now formerly reserved to only those in the highest […]
-
Celts
Today, my mom and I visited the Museum of Scotland for an incredible visit to their gallery on Celts. If you are ever in the area, I highly recommend it. I don’t know how to put into words how amazing this gallery was – I would go through it again in heartbeat tomorrow. Part of the […]
agm 